Jdate Profile and answers to matchmakers -it's a role i've played (See Integration)

The Essential Stats: MY TRICKS:productive procrastination (except if you think acheiving proficiency at Spider Solitaire isn't an accomplishment,and then let me tell you I don't play the easy version), making a short story long (well, the details are all fascinating to me and doesn't every anecdote need context?), surviving on minimal sleep, editing other people's admission essays, making up words to songs as I sing them to Munchkin, my nephew (I mean who knows any lyrics after "Davey, Davey Crockett, King of the Wild Frontier"?) DEFICIENCIES: Complete inability to see hidden images in any Magic Eye pictures, crocheting anything FAVORITE WAYS TO AVOID STUDYING OR WORKING ON RESEARCH PROJECTS: Pilates, Scuba, Snowboarding, Surfing,"Book clubbing" with my brother, checking out indie movies or gallery exhibits that I hear about on NPR or in the Times, traipsing around the Village and people watching (often at the same time), Volunteer work, international travel, road trips, trying anything new. PET PEEVES: Ads for Pharmaceuticals ("So, I saw this commercial and I think I might have Alzheimers, the other day I opened the fridge and I couldn't remember what I was looking for, so can you prescribe some Aricept for me?"), commercials at the movies (If I've paid $10 I shouldn't have to subsidize my ticket by being part of a captive consumer audience), People who make left turns from the right lane, Shopping. (Usually I con my mother and sister into doing it for me and I get really cute clothes!), people who ask questions in class (or elsewhere) just to hear themselves talk (sweetie, you don't sound smart when you summarize what we all should have read).

My perfect first date: Skydiving (actually I found it to be anticlimatic), flying lessons, trapeze school or hanging out in a park, museum or coffeehouse (not Starbucks- someplace with character)and laughing at each other's jokes.
My ideal relationship: Honest communication, having a sense of humor about yourself and the other person. Spending time with someone that you never get bored of and who can make a flat tire on a road trip feel like a good time. I hope to meet someone who inspires me to be a better person just by virtue of who he is and somehow thinks I do the same for him. Then we can change the world together. In the context of a relationship I can put someone's need before my own and I would love to meet someone who does the same. And in an ideal relationship, there are always oppurtunities for spontaneous adventures.
My past relationships: Be honest with yourself and with the other person and if you get a feeling that this probably isn't it, it probably isn't. Accept it and move on, don't try to make something work that isn't or talk yourself into it because someone is great. And don't try to recapture the way it once was, if the way it is now exceeds that first bright spark.

It is really important to me that someone be smart and ambitious. I love what I am studying and am really excited to be going back to school and I am pretty driven. I like people who are similarly passionate about what they do. Confidence is key- but NOT arrogance. I really want someone extraordinary (who doesn't?). It is important to me that someone have really strong personal character and moral fiber. I want to be with someone who inspires me to be a better person by virtue of who they are. I am someone who in the context of a relationship subverts my needs for the other and I need to be with someone who does the same. Openminded, funny, family-oriented, cute (I tend to go for the preppy look). Someone with a sense of communal responsibility. I am on the OU youth commission as well as the board of Ohel and have helped organize multiple fundraisers as well. I want someone who is successful and a consummate mensch. I need someone who knows who they are and doesn't just follow the pack.

I like people who are laid-back and flexible. I define "nice" as being kind to everyone, not just to friends or others who can furnish some desired outcome. It's important to me that someone can both define and exemplify personal character. If something is important to you, your behavior should reflect that. Everyone can pontificate regarding an issue and offer solutions, not everyone tries to implement them. Ideally, I would love to be in a relationship with someone who makes me a better person by virtue of who he is and can make the same claim about me. I want someone who is capable of putting someone else's needs before their own. I like people who are fun and "up for anything". Be willing to try skydiving, a really off broadway production or some bizarre cuisine. Everything is worth attempting once and I like people with curiosity and energy. Don't just say you'll try it, let's go tomorrow. I prefer people who know what a sarcophagus is and who know that Mt. Kilimanjaro and Helsinki at not in close proximity- after a particulary uninspired blind date, these became the criteria (similar to "the Kissinger test" that I heard some people utilize). My family has mocked this as intellectual snobbery- but really, it's fairly basic, i'm not asking about anything that esoteric. And as a friend said - (adapted from Shaw)-"intellecutal snobbery is what intellectual curiousity is called by those who don't possess it". It's more fun when people who gets my humor- apparently not everyone does but my best friend insists i'm witty and hilarious. Admittedly not at 4 am when I should be finishing up studying cognitive neuroscience. Most of my friends are confident, fun, smart, interesting people with some neuroses (see interesting) and generally people with strong personal character.And I like people who are passionate about what they do, independent, strong and quirky. Finally, dream big and dream often.