the ugly words

LONELY, NEEDY, PATHETIC
Why am I so afraid of these words? why do I think that if I say I want to be with someone, that I want to find someone to love, that I want to be in love, I am saying that I am all these ugly things?
I seem to think there is something desperate about admitting that I am not completely happy as I am, with who I am. I can be happy with myself and still want to be in a relationship- can't I? If I admit that I am lacking a romantic partner, am I admitting that I am lacking something else?