What women want

Last night Harry was saying that women don't' know what they want (of course he issued the obligatory disclaimer that he wasn't referring to me). He was saying that women say they want a nice guy and then always go for the guys who treat them poorly and complain that the nice guys are boring. What do I want? Do I want a nice guy or do I want someone exciting or do I only value guys that I feel like I had to work to get? Do I want someone that I have to convince to want me? Because then I can credit my power of persuasion or because I have never left the Groucho club at all? Or because I think that no one worthwhile will ever want me unless I make them want me somehow? Do I have any idea of what I want? Do I want all the wrong things? I want someone to spend time with me, but I don't want someone who has a lot of time to spend with me as I like guys with ambition and plans and interests and they often are busy. I am attracted to busy- is that because I want to feel like I have to earn their attention so it means something? Is that just summoning Electra? Or do I just like that busy guys have full lives? Someone once told Lilah that you dont' want a guy to be so into you right away b/c then he is a freak, he doesn't really know you and this might be his MO. Of course when someone is blown away (and who doesnt like blowing away) you love to think that it was you and you were so captivating and enchanting- but what if it is them? and they are so easily captivated or enchanted? Do I really want to be with a guy that gives up his life for me before he knows me?